A game changer in my life many moons ago, was finally realising that there are certain things in life I can control and those that I can’t! I’m very much a doer, big picture girl who just loves to get shizzle done and with this can come the need to control the outcome of most situations in my life.
So, it came as a huge sense of relief to learn after many years of trying to manipulate situations to suit myself, that I didn’t have to control everything in my life and that part of life’s process is to trust that we are being supported and learn to let go and let GOD!
My need to control, was a HUGE sign that I was living my life from a fearful space and I was supposed to be on a self-love journey?
Love and Fear cannot exist at the same time and something had to give for me. I decided to be brave and learn to let go slowly in my own time - I will always be learning but it wasn't until I started make the conscious effort to let go, that life started to flow more easily for me.
I'm learning through my own experiences that life wants to support us in every area, not just when we sit down on the meditation mat to BREATHE! I’ve had to learn to apply the beautiful teachings I love to learn about, through recognising my own life struggles where my main focus was to control the outcome - What a struggle this was and I was exhausted. Trying to control everything was a STRUGGLE!
So, how do you know when you are struggling?
You come up against resistance in your day to day life, you find yourself having words with your loved ones again and again & sometimes, you just feel like the whole world is against you.
This is the time to ask yourself, the question and with each question you ask yourself, feel into your heart for the response –
Do I really need to control these situations?
How is this adding value to my life right now?
What happens if I just let it resolve itself without my input or interference?
I know that I can control my own thoughts, words and actions and EVERYTHING ELSE is outside of my control and so I do my best to let these things go - I remind myself of this often, especially in moments of stress, that come up every day for me. This is a wonderful way to learn to let go of the mind chatter which is causing my anxiety levels to skyrocket.
CONTROL WHAT YOU CAN AND LET THE REST GO!
HERE ARE SOME OF THE WAYS I HANDLE THE BIG LIFE Q’s such as…..
Are my daughters safe when they are not with me?
I have to trust that life is supporting them and looking out for their best interests too. I do all that I can to entrust they are safe and secure, and I need to trust that they too are tuning into their intuition to be guided on their individual life journeys.
I love my daughters so much and I also know that the universe listens to my thoughts and responds with my wishes in every moment, and I do not want to be putting my not so helpful thoughts out into the universe as my powerful manifestation abilities, just may manifest my worst fears.
So in times when I feel concerned for my girls safety, I really focus on thinking positively, praying to my spiritual support team to look after them 24/7 and I tell myself that they are indeed safe and taken care of.
What happens when my income is taken away from me unexpectedly?
This happened to my family a few years ago and was a very tough time for us. So I do understand how helpless you can feel when this happens to you. This situation for us was coupled with legal proceedings which lasted 6-12mths and it was in the trenches that I really got to see that when you hang on to your faith with everything that you’ve got, that you will be OK!
Because, faith was all we had during this time, when everything appeared to be unravelling in our lives – Deep deep down, I knew the universe was asking me to practice what I teach, walk my talk, to personally experience what I say I believe in and I also knew she was giving us another way to live our lives, a chance to upgrade our current situation, which just now is revealing itself to us in the most beautiful way. It has taken time and re-creating a way of living that is aligned with our values and suits our lifestyle has been the best thing that has happened to my family.
BUT first, we had to TRUST and allow her to support us!
If you are someone who likes to control every aspect of your life and your finding it hard to keep all the balls up in the air, perhaps now is the time to start releasing the reigns every so slightly. Be kind to yourself during this process. Learning to flow, also gives life the chance to bring to you beautiful unexpected surprises and opting to control everything shuts the door to these amazing miracles awaiting you.
LEARNING TO FLOW IS ALLOWING YOURSELF TO LIVE IN YOUR HEART SPACE.
WHEN WE CONTROL EVERY ASPECT OF OUR LIVES, FEAR IS OUR FUEL.